Habits definition – a settled or regular tendency or practise, especially one that is hard to give up.
Have you been a part of our A.R.T Your Life Hub or workshops? Recently, we spoke about habits.
What are some examples of habits?
A healthy habit might be stretching for ten minutes a day or meditating to calm your thoughts when you are stressed. Perhaps it is enjoying a camomile tea before bed.
Conversely, unhealthy habits could be biting your nails, overeating when you are stressed or using alcohol to numb your feelings on a regular basis.
Then we have neutral habits, which include cleaning your teeth, making your bed, eating the same breakfast each day, parking your car in the same parking spot etc.
Do you find yourself focussed on your positive habits or on your negative ones?
Do you have unhealthy or unhelpful habits that you wish to change?
‘We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used to create them.’ Albert Einstein
Benefits of habits
Both positive and negative habits give us the outcome that we are looking for.
Positive – A camomile tea may help us sleep better.
Negative – Drinking too much can numb our pain and help us to brush things off.
How habits are formed
The process of building a habit can be divided into four simple steps: cue, craving, response, and reward.
Breaking it down into these fundamental parts can help us understand what a habit is, how it works, and how we can make a change.
Know that while the steps are the same for everyone, the actual cue, craving, response, and reward are different for everyone.
Cue – I want
Craving – Motivation and desire
Response – The habit or action
Reward – The satisfaction
Remember – Cues are meaningless until they are acted upon. Your thoughts, feelings and emotions transform a cue into a craving.
What happens when you walk into a dark room?
This simple habit has occurred so often that you do it without thinking. You proceed through all four stages in a fraction of a second.
The urge to act strikes you without thinking.
Problem phase Solution phase
- Cue 2. Craving 3. Response 4. Reward
- You walk into a dark room.
- You want to be able to see.
- You flip the light switch.
- You satisfy your craving to see.
Turning on the light switch becomes associated with being in a dark room.
By the time we are adults, we rarely notice the habits that are running our lives.
Most of us never give a second thought to tying the same shoe first or always changing into comfortable clothes after getting home from work.
After decades of mental programming, we automatically slip into these patterns of thinking and acting.
Changing your habits
Whenever you want to change your behaviour, you can ask yourself:
- How can I make it obvious?
- How can I make it attractive?
- How can I make it easy?
- How can I make it satisfying?
I have helped hundreds of women A.R.T their lives, and I can help you too!
A.R.T is not about finger painting or drawing. We need to do it when we want more purpose, satisfaction and happiness…..and fewer crappy habits!
A – Activate your self-awareness
R – Reshape your thinking
T – Transform your life
The bottom line is your mindset, patterns and self-belief impact EVERYTHING – at work, rest and play!